My Body Is No One Else’s Business

It’s kind of upsetting that this has to be said, but its true.

I didnt know that my body was something that I had to hate, criticize, or be embarrassed  of… until I was taught that I was supposed to. I could have gone through life without giving the fact that my thighs rub together a second thought, but society robbed me (& all of us) of that privilege. Oh, I dont look like the model in the picture? Then I better kill myself at the gym, and give up carbs and obsess over every little thing that does or doesnt go into my mouth, and basically drive myself crazy until I look absolutely, barbie doll perfect? Wrong.

So you’re telling me that we have to deprive myself to live up to someone else’s standards of beauty? That its a requirement for us all to be a size 2 to be valued? Last time I checked, thats ridiculous.

I dont see why I need to feel ashamed that I wear a DD bra, or that I have stretch marks. It makes zero sense. Why should we have to apologize for our bodies?  My body is no one else’s business. Just like your body is none of my business. I dont want to be told that I can only be happy with myself if I’m trying to fix how I look.

Think about it: ask almost any woman at any given time, and I bet you that they are trying to lose weight or gain muscle, or *insert crazy trend here*. Point is,  we’re always after something that is so unattainable, but the media guilts us into feeling like we aren’t good enough . Spoiler Alert: you are more than  enough.

I am me. If I decide that I want to change, then that is my decision. For me. To make myself happy. Not to fit some “ideal standard of beauty”.  Because, like I said, the only person whose business it is is mine.

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The tradition still stands, and it has come to be one of my favorites. I just wrapped up my third Christmas break, and of course, that means my back to school dinner in Pittsburgh

. Last year, we chose Casbah, the year before, Monterey Bay on Mt. Washington. This year, I chose Social House,  A big thanks to my best friend Maddy for recommending it! (She’s my go-to for everything Pittsburgh related ❤ )

Social House is a “Japanese izakaya-style restaurant”, which basically means meals are meant to be shared. Which honestly is perfect for us since my family eats off of each others plates anyway.. oops!

I loved the atmosphere as soon as we walked in. You could definitely tell it was new and trendy. There was a glass covered koi fish pond in the floor of the entrance.. enough said. (and I’m SO mad I didnt get a picture!)

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We took our time and really looked over the menu. There were so many options that looked interesting, we had a hard time picking just one… so we didnt! ! For appetizers, we ordered a few pieces of sushi, edamame, and edamame hummus. The hummus was definitely different than any i have had before, you could taste the soy beans and their texture really stuck out. The sushi was great, I expected no less.

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For dinner, my mom picked out the Short Rib Yaki Noodles (because Sheila can’t pass up beef). They weren’t at all what I was expecting but, regardless they were to die for. My dad ordered a bowl of ramen. I was really excited that someone ordered it, because I’ve been wanting to try ramen for a while now, but I’ve been too scared. It was really good but I dont think I could have finished that big of a bowl! For me, I decided on the Bi Bim Bap and wow am I glad I did. Put an egg on top of anything and I’m sold!

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Our waitress came around to offer dessert.. and you think Im gonna say no?

We actually picked two treats to go with our coffee. First was the Japanese Cotten Cheesecake with Pineapple Lychee Sauce, Green Tea Powder, Charred Pineapple. This wasn’t your typical cheesecake. It wasn’t very sweet, but I loved the texture. I was dense but smooth. ( I looked up how to make it while we were eating 😉 ) The second dessert was our waitress’s recommendation,  the Egg Custard Steamed Buns with a Lemongrass and Orange Blossom Pastry Cream and Orange Glaze. Surprisingly amazing. As my mom said, they tasted like an Italian Christmas cookie, and she wasn’t wrong. They came in a covered basket ( between this and the ramen, the restaurant looked like something out of an anime LOL) and they were still hot when we got them, and they were incredibly soft.

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100% would eat there again. I could have easily ordered one of everything on the menu, but thats what next time is  for! If you’re looking for a trendy restaurant in the heart of Pittsburgh, Social House is the way to go!

Never Let a Man Define You.

 “Never let a man define you”. My mom has told me this for as long as I can remember. And she continues to preach this to me, even now as I approach 21.  Its one of the best, and most accurate pieces of advice she’s given to my in my life. It has  put things into perspective, and  helped me to develop into  into the independent, strong young woman I am today.

So now… I’m learning how to be alone.

Ive been guilty of associating my self worth with what others think about me, and I’m seeing how inherently wrong that is. My happiness should not depend on a guy, nor should I need  a guy to verify the great qualities about me.  My identity should not be so deeply rooted a man that I don’t know who I am without him. And I definitely dont need someone who is going to make me doubt, or feel less about myself.

I have a hard time sometimes seeing this… but I am still so young. I have my whole life ahead of me. This may very well be the only  time to not have to worry about anyone else, and have time to focus solely on my life, my future, myself. Ive spent too much time moping and feeling sorry for myself, instead of concentrating on how I can be the best version of Monica. And to be completely honest, I’m over it. I’m done letting men determine my happiness.

I’m  the type of person who  grows  comfortable in the security of  a routine. And my  relationships are no exception.  I realize that, when it comes down to it:  I miss the familiarity and the routine of my  relationships, the idea of the person, and not so much the person themselves. I miss the validation, and my pride often gets mistaken for heartbreak. But when I look back and reflect on if I was truly, 100%  happy in my relationships… the answer isn’t always yes.

Ive thought about it a lot, and in the end,  I came to the conclusion: I’m getting along just fine alone. I refuse to  put my happiness in anyone else’s hand but my own. Im moving on to a new chapter in my life and accepting that everything happens for a reason and that God has a plan for me. And most importantly, not letting a man define me.

 

 

Healthier Mini Pumpkin Pies

This idea has been floating around in my head for a little while now. Its October which basically means its the time for pumpkin everything. But pumpkin pie is such a classic, so I decided to stick to the basics

We’ve been learning about pastries and pie crusts in my Food Study class, and naturally i wanted to put my knowledge to the test. For totally winging it, Im pretty happy with my results

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INgredients

For the Crust:

  • 1 1/4 cups whole wheat  flour, sifted
  • 1.4 tsp salt
  • 6 tbsp olive oil***
  • 3 tbsp water

For the Filling :

  • 1 1/2 cups pumpkin puree
  • 1 cup truvia (or any other no cal sweetener)
  • 1 egg
  • 1 tsp cinnamon
  • 1/4 tsp nutmeg

Directions

  1. Preheat your oven to 350, and coat your muffin tins with a non stick spray
  2. For the crust, combine the flour and salt together in a large bowl
  3. In a smaller bowl, stir oil and water together. Combine oil mixture with the flour and mix until a dough forms. Add more flour or water as needed.
  4. Press your dough into the muffin tins and up the sides pic-4
  5. For the filling, combine all the ingredients in a bowl.
  6. Scoop filling into the crusts and bake for 25-30 min until crusts are set

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*** I did the first batch with olive oil and the second with melted butter. The both turned out the same!

this recipe can easily be made into 1 large pie, or smaller pies using a mini muffin tin! These are the perfect little dessert for fall. Top them with some whip cream and enjoy 🙂

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DIY Oat Cereal

This idea is pretty much life changing,  Cold oatmeal is probably one of my favorite breakfasts these days. Im sure it sounds a little strange but you’ll just have to hear me out on this one! I’ve been playing around with this recipe for years and I think I’ve finally got it down to a science

Ingredients:

  • 1/4 cup raw oats
  • 1/2 tbsp ground flaxseed
  • 1 tsp chia seeds
  • 1 packet Stevia
  • 1 tsp cinnamon
  • vanilla extract
  • 1/2 tbsp vanilla protein powder
  • 1/2 tbsp runny nut butter ( I find that it mixes better when its runny. If yours isn’t, i suggest microwaving it!!)
  • 1/2 banana, sliced
  • raisins, for topping
  • chopped nuts, for topping
  • 1/2 cup milk ( I use almond)

Directions:

  1. place oats, flaxseed, chia seed, stevia, protein powder, and cinnamon in a bowl and mix to combine
  2. add in a few slashes of vanilla extract and stir.
  3. drizzle nut butter of choice over dry ingredients and mix until it forms a crumbly texture.
  4. top with sliced bananas, raisins, and nuts.
  5. pour milk over top and enjoy!!

SO GOOD. I promise. The longer it sits, the better it gets! What I like about this cereal is that it has a little bit of everything: carbs, fats, and protein,  which means it keeps you full for the morning! Feel free to switch up the toppings and make it your own! Like I said, this is one of my favorite breakfasts, and I hope it will top the list as one of yours! 🙂

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Banana Egg Protein Pancakes

Sooooo yes, I’m aware that this isn’t a new concept. I decided I don’t care bc I think my little spin on these babies is a real winner. By now, you know I’m a firm believer that all foods fit into a healthy lifestyle. But while regular pancakes are good for your soul, these pancakes are a good way to fuel your body to take on the day!

INGREDIENTS:

  • 1/2 medium banana
  • 2 egg whites
  • 1/2 TBS vanilla protein powder (I use About Time!)
  • 1 tbsp whole grain pancake mix (like Bob’s Red Mill)
  • 1/2 tsp cinnamon
  • 1 packet stevia

Directions:

  1. Mash banana with a fork
  2. add in egg white, protein powder, pancake mix, cinnamon, and stevia. Mix until well combined
  3. Coat skillet with cooking spray and turn it to medium high heat
  4. Pour the batter onto the skillet and cook until each side is done, about 2-3 minutes

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This is just the base recipe, but you can easily add in whatever you like! Blueberries, chocolate chips, the list goes on!

I topped mine with cinnamon, almond butter, and agave syrup, and paired it with a side of fresh fruit!

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Hope you’ll give this a try, i know you’ll love it. Because come on, you KNOW those look just like the real deal 😉

Embrace Your Flaws.

To take a page out of the fabulous book of Tyra Banks: You + Your Flaws + Awesome = Flawsome.

I know flaws are “supposed” to be a bad thing. But since when was being curvy, or having pale skin, or gapped teeth a flaw?

Flaws set us apart from everyone else. They make you, you. If everyone looked the same, think about how boring that would be. What if, instead of trying to hide our flaws, what if we embraced them?

Yeah, it might be hard. We’ve been taught to cover up what is different about us. To dress for our shape, our skin tone, our height. To try to conform to one standard of beauty. Which, lets face it, is usually what we see on Instagram or Cosmo.

For example, I went through a phase where I refused to wear shorts, and forced myself to put on sweatpants everyday. In June. Why you may ask? Because I told myself that my legs were too big. They didn’t look like that girl in the magazine or at the gym. Therefore, deserved to be covered up. Want to know what I learned from that? Sweats are not for the summer unless you’re trying to have a heat stroke.

My point is, this principal applies to more than just legs. Replace that with whatever you think your flaw is. And I challenge you to embrace it. Walk into a room like you OWN it. Love yourself. And above all, be unapologetically you.

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