No, not THAT F word
Fat (n): One of the three major macronutrients that has many biological functions, namely to provide energy and serve to protect vital organs from external damage.
Notice how that definition has nothing to do with outward appearance or weight.
I’ve come to the conclusion that I no longer want to use the F word. Not to tear myself down, and not as an adjective to describe others. And I’ll tell you why.
Ive narrowed it down to the 3 basic reasons why someone calls themselves/others fat:
- To solicit a compliment: “OMG NO YOU DONT! YOUR SO SKINNY, I WISH I LOOKED LIKE YOU!” (Like, I admit it, I’ve been that girl)
- To make them feel better about themselves: ” You know…so-and-so has gained a lot of weight, she’s gotten kind of fat”
- Because they truly feel that way about themselves.
And honestly.. none of these are good enough reasons to use the F word.
How many times have you felt better after calling yourself fat? You sit there, look in the mirror, tear yourself apart, tell yourself awful things, and expect to feel better? Its like sticking your hand on the stove and expecting not to get burned.
And trust me, I learned this lesson the HARD way. It took years of self destructive and self deprecating behaviors and I’m finally just now begining to understand this.
I started noticing how often people comment about their own weight or make a comment about someone else’s weight… it was a lot. And you know, some people argue “oh, thats just part of being a woman, we talk about losing weights and dieting, its normal.” ITS JUST A PART OF BEING A WOMAN? I just want to make sure that you’ve read and processed that. Im gonna be honest and tell you that I’ve actually heard that statement come out of someones mouth and I still can’t wrap my head around it. No No NO. If we are okay with the fact that this is what is considered “normal” then do you see the issue here????
I decided that I was going to try to make a conscious effort to not comment about my weight or anyone elses. I have spent way too much time making weight the focal point of my life and I’ve finally had enough, When someone brings up how “fat” they are, or how much weight they’ve gained, I dont engage. I change the subject. I won’t use the F word. I dont think that calling yourself fat should be normal. How about talking about the things you LIKE about yourself…? Oh my god. UNHEARD OF!!!!
So I challenge you: be cognizant of how many times you use the F word, be it about yourself or referring to another person. I challenge you to stop using “fat” as an adjective to belittle yourself, to feel better about yourself, or to seek out a compliment. Coming from the mouth of a nutrition major: try to only use it when you’re talking about how awesome it makes your peanut butter taste 😉